Lady Hitch Podcast

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2022 is quickly coming to an end. The holidays are just around the corner and here you are single for the holidays, again. 

How are you going to handle it again this year? How are you friends going to handle it? How will your parents handle it? There are so many people involved in your singlehood. Oh my...

But wait a minute. You're the one who is single? You're the one who is alone at all the holiday parties. That's not necessarily a terrible thing.

So many singles choose to take a date from their online "dating" world or choose to go on a blind date and take them to a holiday event just so they don't show up alone. That could be a mistake. Don't commit yourself to someone you don't know or someone you might not like, just so you don't go to a party by yourself. 

What if out of desperation you choose either of these options? Your date could hurt your chances of meeting the future love of your life. 

I say that because it has happened to me. I agreed to celebrate New Year’s Eve a few years ago with a gentleman who graciously invited me. I was going to spend it alone but decided at the last minute to go on this NYE date. It was a five-star date though, I have to give him that. He got me a suite at the RItz Carlton Downtown Denver, dinner at a very nice steakhouse, then dancing at yet another fancy steakhouse for NYE festivities. We arrived, ran into a few people I knew, mingled, sipped on cocktails, danced a little bit. Then there he was.... Mr. Perfect! He was tall, very handsome, super sharply dressed. He was smart; he was there solo. Anyway, we made eye contact, chatted, flirted...I was discrete.  I was careful not to offend my date.

He did notice that this other gentleman and I had some major chemistry going on and he commented on it. He was gracious about it, but still it was uncomfortable for me because I really did not want to be on this date anymore. The solo guy and I managed to exchange contact info. 

The lesson to be learned here is don't stress yourself about being single for the holidays. The last love of your life will find you when you are ready. Don't be too eager or desperate. This reminds me. I was sitting at the bar a few years ago while on a date. It was a nice steakhouse, so the clientele was fancy too.

There was a group of single ladies sitting down at the other end of the bar. The gentleman I was having drinks with commended that every time the door opened and someone came in the ladies all turned their head to check out who  was coming in. He said he could smell desperation from them every time the door opened. I thought it was hilarious, but absolutely true.

Be patient. If you are single for the holidays embrace it. Prepare yourself to meet the last love of your life. Be ready when he/she arrives.

Cheers!

           Lady Hitch

Below are some interesting profiles I or my friends have experienced in my years of online dating.

I love it when a profile starts out with a tongue lashing.

"Why are there so many ladies on here that are dating a man, but are still looking. I guess they  arent really ready for a relationship so they are still looking for Mr. Perfect and going to drop the guy they are dating if they find a better fish.  I guess there are men out there also like that.  Well if I find a lady who wants to be real and tells me, then I am out of here."

The next one is actually a nice one, kind of sad, but nice.

"Well? did she read my message?  It's ard to make an impression on such a beautiful woman when I'm competing with so many.  She must get thousands of messages a day!  She doesn't say much. So how can I know what to say?  She says chemistry is important? Other than visual chemistry how the heck can anyone know without at least saying hello.  I am a handsome man!  I am fit and take care of myself, most people think I'm 40.  I am 1/4 Spanish, passion is a part of everything I do!  It's so frustrating knowing I am what she seeks yet saddening that I am just another face on her screen that gets deleted because she is overwhelmed with messages? Well? I hope she finds what she is looking for, it would be sad to see her here a year from now!  WOW! I hope I a not still here in a year!  It's difficult to read the book if you don't open the cover!

I hope you have someone special you an share your heart with tomorrow!

My best to you!

Sincerely, RF"